Tuesday, March 21, 2006

Bad Week-end

On Wednesday, Tom had his test for the pump to be installed that delivers anti-spasm medication. This involves putting a needle into the spinal fluid (basically a spinal tap). A person should not sit upright for several hours after having this procedure, to prevent headaches.
The test went OK, but did not yield the results that we were hoping for.
Tom's leg spasms, which are unexpected jerks, were helped by the test and so should be helped if the pump in put in him. His worst complaint, however, is the increasing tightness in his chest and back, which ffles like someone is squeezing his chest and there's a bowling ball pushing at his back between the shoulder blades.
This is not super painful for him, but it makes it extremely difficult for him to breathe and it keeps him awake and squirming every night. We are getting less and less sleep each night. Sleeping pills make him looney and talk in his sleep and argue with me in his sleep. (I try to convince him that whatever he thinks is happening is really a dream.) He squirms almost all night, wrestling with the covers, trying to move his legs or calling me to straighten or bend them, sometimes right after I just did them. The loss of sleep is getting to us.

He got sick on Thursday with a urinary tract infection. We came home for the week-end. He started throwing up on Saturday, particularly when he was sitting up. This is possibly a sign of a complication from the spinal tap. He was still throwing up on Sunday. (I had parties to conduct on both days and had to leave him at home with other people to tend to him while he was sick.) It might also have been a reaction to the new medication for the UTI. Or maybe another complication from the pump test. who knows??

Monday he was still sick-ish so we did not go back up to the Shepherd Center for his day program. Tuesday (today) I thought he was getting better in the morning, but is back to being puny this evening. Can't breathe thru his nose and having headache and nausea when sitting up/can't breathe thru mouth and having to suffer the extreme tightness in his chest when lying down. It's gonna be a bad night again, I can tell.....

Tomorrow, (Wed.) we have got to get back up to Shepherd--the doctor really wants to see Tom in his office. Fortunately, Glenn, our handicapped friend who drives us up there, is willing to take us Wed. morning. We're praying that he'll feel better tomorrow. And that we'll get some sleep tonight.

Thanks for all your prayers, money, meals, yard clean up, and support....

Michele

1 Comments:

At 2:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Tom and Michelle,

Karla and I have been keeping up with your situation via your blog. You probably don’t recognize the name, but I am Suzy Molnar’s uncle.

I have thought about writing (again) but honestly didn’t know quite what to say. I feel that I should have the “magic words” to make everything “OK,” but I don’t.

I have been an incomplete quad for 52 years. I fractured C3, 4 & 5 in a diving accident. I have little or no bowel or bladder control and am now confined to a power chair. I have no use of my right hand, have very limited use of my left hand; I can move my legs just enough to roll over; can stand up enough to transfer to bed or toilet but cannot walk.

My injury is not as severe as Tom’s, but Karla and I have experienced most everything you talk about in your updates. Sometimes I just cringe because of what both of you are living through everyday.

In your last update, you mentioned that Tom’s legs jerk unexpectedly. I have experienced this from day-one (of my accident). I have spent many sleepless nights because of the leg spasms. It is usually one leg or the other that jerks but never both at the same time.

I am not qualified to give you medical advice, but for what “it may be worth,” I would like to pass on something I have learned through trial and error: After all of these years, I have finally discovered what causes most of the spasms (for me). It is simply that my legs get too hot. The spasms will usually stop when I uncover the legs and let them cool down.

Also, I have found that they will jerk if I get too cold or if there is pain of some type. But 90 to 95 percent of the time it is that they are too hot.

Like Tom, my bodily thermostat doesn’t work right. I may not know that I am either too hot or too cold (unless I actually feel with my hand).

Also, something light touching my feet will cause them to spasm. Legs jerk if I am in bed too long.

Concerning bladder and bowels:

When I feel the urge to urinate, I have about 15 to 30 seconds before it comes. I do not use a catheter because of urinary tract infections. When we take trips, I use the condom cath.

Bowel control is influenced by diet; but it still can come without warning. To help in the control, I have to be sure to eat the right amount of roughage and drink enough water…if I don’t get enough fluid I get diarrhea. (Personally, milk gives my diarrhea and white sugar causes congestion.)

I experience something similar to the tightness in Tom’s chest when I eat “anything” that is very dry. Chest will tighten so that I cannot swallow.

Michelle, I am sure you do…but please, accept all of the help you can get! With all due respect, you cannot keep up your current pace…(I Karla) have “been there, done that”…and I (Gary) strongly second this!!!

We have found that you take life minute by minute, doing what has to be done. God is our strength to see us through and the blessing of this situation is learning not to be too concerned about the little things…life is too short and this handicap is too hard to waste precious time and much needed energy being negative. We have choices to make and decide what kind of day it is going to be before we put “our feet to the floor in the morning”…it’s a struggle just to live and negativity will kill you.

Personally, there have (probably) been thousands of prayers for me (Gary) to be completely healed. However, it hasn’t happened. But this does not mean that God has not been directly involved in my life, and that of my family, on numerous occasions. I believe that I have experienced many miracles. Remembering these miracles is encouraging and gives me strength to go on and hope for the future.

You too have had many prayers and many miracles. God does not cause bad things to happen to us but he does allow them. We don’t need to know the “why” now, but as time goes on and we look back at our lives, things begin to make more since; a purpose is being served and God gives us the strength to carry on.

If you think we might be able to help in anyway, please contact us.

In Christian love,

Gary & Karla Sefcak

 

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